I’ve heard this many times, people (random strangers) arguing with someone for the sake of “being right”. Most issues people raise primarily concern children and pets. Why are strangers so animate about how others care for their young and animals? Quite frankly I believe it should be “NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS!” Now the only two exceptions of this are in cases of obvious abuse and neglect, and even then it needs to be “OBVIOUS!”
A good friend of mine had this happen to her right in front of her children. In her case it was regarding their puppy who was safe and comfortable in their van with the windows rolled down a wee bit on a cool spring afternoon. Tell me this: what is wrong with this picture? Was the dog being abused? No! Was he neglected? No! Pets can be left alone for long durations of time. The windows cracked open allowed air to pass through and his owners only went into the store for less then half an hour.
The angry woman threatened to break open a window and “free” the dog. I’m not sure if she was a dog owner herself, and to be honest that doesn’t matter. It shouldn’t matter. From what I’ve heard the woman in question was the vicious type who always “wants to be right”, she “needs to be right” at all times. She, like so many others, picks fights and threatens others over her small and irrelevant opinions.
Recently I was sitting in one of my favorite coffee shops and heard a lady mention to another customer regarding a similar experience with her child. A stranger accused her of being a “bad mother” because she left her stroller for a brief time, few seconds, so she could remedy the difficulty she had with getting it over or around an obstacle. Was the child being abused? No! What he or she being neglected? I would honestly say No! (I don’t know the whole story here and quite frankly it’s beside the point.)
The moral of this essay is “Don’t judge a complete stranger until you know the whole story.” I don’t want to see or hear families being torn apart because as fool has the selfish and delusional need to be always right.
Jesus said, “Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.” (Matthew 7:1-5, ESV)
The most common paraphrase of this passage is “Judge not least ye be judged”. This can go for many other aspects of life. Another common example is non-parents accusing new parents of treating their child wrongly. “Judge not least ye be judged!” If know the entire story will you have the same opinion? Think about it.